I became aware of the whole SB genre of blogging sometime in May when I stumbled upon a sister SB's blog. Well, this is how it happened. I hadn't been on the SA blog for a while so I was just lurking but mostly catching up with what's going on with the "regulars". (Note: even though I have a profile on SA, I was not actively looking and instead liked the feeling of community on the blog.) Like I said, I hadn't been on in a while and there were a number of people there that I hadn't recognized from my last time. So in my effort to put names, well, handles to profiles, I clicked on this uber SB's name and happened upon her blog - who knew. And so my blog addiction was borne and thus.
These weren't just her experiences though. This was much more like an online newspaper in terms of layout, etc. Heck, she even had interviews. It was like having the "Sugar Bowl Post and Constitution". Needless to say, I was hooked and wanted to find out if other SB's were blogging and how they were managing the search and sustaining their sugar relationships.
I have learned so much from these talented writers and thank them all for being vulnerable and baring their souls to us. These blogs have directly impacted my search process so far and with their permission I would like to thank:
· Goal Digger for invaluable advice on how to get better response rate from eligible SDs by refining the online profile writing process. After reading her recommendations, I deleted my profile from a relationship site. It occurred to me that I hadn’t seen anyone suitable there because I was looking in the wrong place for what I wanted. I now have plans to get new pictures for SA and to upload a killer profile there also.
· SD David for giving me the term to define what I am seeking from the Sugar Bowl. I am a *cough* little older that most SBs here and have always felt awkward using the term Sugar Baby to refer to myself. I’ve always known what I wanted from and what I had to offer in a relationship. So imagine the cartoonish elegant light bulb that went on/off over my head when SD David used the term “European or Parisian relationship” Experience to describe his own needs at this time. Why hadn’t I thought of that? I am from an island in the Caribbean with heavy British influences and all my IRL boyfriends there were what is called Sugar Daddies - just never knew how to describe my relationships “here”. So thank you SD David. I am proud to say I’m offering the European Experience– c’est chic, non?
· East Coast for teaching me that no one person owns the rights to defining what a Sugar relationship should be. Sugar relationships can be whatever you make it out to be so long as it works for the individuals involved. Oh, I admire her moxie and that she makes no apologies for her Sugar Life. I hope to come back here and thank her for teaching me to be vulnerable which translates as honesty for me. In yesterday’s post, I omitted saying I needed to start working out diligently and lose about 10 pounds. I opted instead for the anemic “get glamorous”. Wow, that was honest – maybe I can thank you now East Coast!
· Baby Bow for showing us how it’s done! Her results, I believe, are in direct proportion to the work she’s put into the SD search. Who can forget the 100+ e-mails and the subsequent dates for the elimination rounds? Through her, I have come to realize that finding the perfect Sugar situation is/takes hard work. I read this entire blog in two days. I didn’t feel like I was wasting time, au contraire, I felt like it was time well-spent on research and relevant preparation for the task ahead.
Next time from the archives of my now defunct Shangri-La: Are you In?
Life is grand, yes?
